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Kendra Speaks!

Hey, hi!

I still don't know what I'm going to do in this spot regularly.

I think what I'm going to do is this:

I talk about whatever I want for a while, and then I list any promos that Adam has books in, whether discounted or free, when I get finished.

How does that sound?

Here's what I want to talk about today:


Specifically, I'm going to answer a question someone sent in to me. I won't give you their name or gender, because I don't want anyone tracking them down.

They asked me:

Kendra, you married Aiyana. You married Derek. You were a sensie actress. What is your orientation? What do you like? There are all sorts of hints, but you never tell us outright.

Okay. So that's not all of it, but enough.

The point is they were asking what could be seen as a snoopy question.


I don't care.

Everything that's in the books Adam puts out? You can know that.

If it's not in the books yet, it's because it isn't in the books - YET.

That means it might be.

But here's what I will tell you.

If I were going by the labels you use, I would be poly/pan - polyamorous, pansexual. But that doesn't tell the whole story, which is one reason I'm so happy the labels have disappeared in my time!

When I was younger and not married, I would have a casual fling with anyone I liked. It didn't matter the equipment, it was the person attached to it. And I could be with many partners in a short amount of time, and even have a rotating cast of partners.

I did that for a while, when I moved out to the Valley.

It was FUN!

But it's not what I prefer.

When I'm with someone I love, really love - and that's happened a total of three times in my life, thank you very much! - I want to be with them, and I want it to be exclusive or limited. As for their gender? I prefer women. (I know about the debate you're having in your time about what a woman is, and I'm not going to touch it. Womanhood, femininity, is between the ears, not between the legs.) Always have.

I should explain.

Aiyana was my first love and my longest love and the woman I intend to spend the rest of my life with.


We haven't always been together.

When we were apart, from '98 to '12, that's when I was out and playing, for a few years.

Then I met Rose, and we fell in love.

And that was good for a long time, until it wasn't. No regrets. When the ship lifts, all bills are paid.

And then I had Aiyana again, and I was absolutely, blissfully happy.

Still am.

And then Minna married us both, and we're even happier (although I would have sworn it wasn't possible).

Could this change in the future? Could someone else come in and sweep me off my feet? Sure. But I'm not looking, and that's 90% of the challenge.

So, at this time, in this place? I am a polyamorous lesbian.

And now you know more about my personal life than you probably ever wanted.

- Kendra


The audiobook for Into the Black just passed, so you can now purchase it! Want it? Click the image below!

And you can pre-order Wicked Wishes here - it's a charity anthology (all proceeds benefit the World Literacy Federation)


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